I’ve been talking a lot with different people about really owning what it is you truly want, then creating a plan for getting it. Once you can confidently say what you want, then you have to figure out how to get it.
Which is scarier? Saying what you really want out loud, or trying to take action to get it? I sometimes think that it differs for each of us. I have always been a dreamer, but over time I learned to keep most of my dreams to myself, out of fear that others would tell me that I couldn’t have it. Because I have experienced that. I would listen to others tell me what I could and couldn’t do, what I could and could have, who I should and shouldn’t be. After a while, I took what they told me and started telling myself. That’s a nice dream, but you can’t have that.
There have been times that I stepped up, stepped out and took a risk, Took a chance on myself. And won. I got the thing that I wanted: education, career, relationship. I have achieved some pretty awesome things in this life.
But there are times when I start dreaming about what I want in this next season of my life, I seem to automatically go back to old behaviors, old patterns, and tell myself that I can’t have it? I don’t deserve it. I’m not capable. When I am completely and fully aware that I am capable, deserving, and worthy? I have EVIDENCE that I can achieve the things that I want for my life. But I forget so quickly. Short term amnesia.
Luckily, I have taught myself to short-circuit that negativity. I shift to remember what I have done. I think about my wins. I remember what they feel like. It’s like an automatic response to replay that pattern of negative thinking. But I have a newer pattern of interrupting it and playing the video of my triumphs.
We often gravitate to the negative thoughts, beliefs and feelings, completely forgetting that we actually HAVE done some absolutely AMAZING things in our lives. And we can create and complete new absolutely AMAZING things in the future. We fall back into the fearful patterns and thoughts that we have been taught, and have adopted, in an effort to stay safe and comfortable. And small.
Where are you staying small? Where are you playing it safe? Where in your life are you TOO comfortable?
Come out and play. Play full out. Take a risk. Take a leap. Live the life of YOUR dreams. Own it. You deserve it. And you’re definitely worth it.